source: msn.com/en-ph/news/other/the-psychological-effects-of-keeping-secrets
my conclusion: guilt is OBJECTIVE & PARTIAL (not always bad), shame is SUBJECTIVE & TOTAL (always bad / negative). Catholic teaching (from St Augustine): Hate the SIN, love the SINNER.
GUILT: "I regret having done something wrong. I wish I had done something differently."
SHAME: "There's something wrong with ME (whether or not I have done something objectively wrong). I'm failing to live up to expectations."
Shame, therefore, tends to PREOCCUPY people more than guilt because it can chip away at our sense of SELF-WORTH and lead to feelings of HOPELESSNESS.
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